Lesbian Parenting – How to Heal Unresolved Issues Before Deciding to Get Pregnant
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Lesbian Parenting – How to Heal Unresolved Issues Before Deciding to Get Pregnant
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Jeanine_Byers_Hoag]Jeanine Byers Hoag
Are there things from your own childhood, mistakes that your parents made, that you have sworn to do differently if you have children?
“The most natural thing we do is raise our children the way we were raised…Adults who had difficult childhoods for any reason-trauma, abuse, neglect, or separation due to divorce, for example-may have some challenges to overcome.”– Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker, Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children
This article, part of a series on deciding if and when to have a baby, is about overcoming those challenges, healing those unresolved issues, whatever they are.
Identify What Went Wrong
Take an honest look at what the unresolved issues are. How have you been hurt? What did you need that you didn’t get and how did that hurt you?
The next big question has to do with how it all affected you. Consider the different areas of your life and take out your mental magnifying glass to look for problems you might not have had, difficulties you might have avoided.
For example, if you always felt like you were in the way in your family, then perhaps you hide out at work. Perhaps you don’t ask for what you want or need in your relationships.
Find the Memories that Need to Heal
If you follow what went wrong all the way down to the bottom of the well, what you will find is cellular memories, limiting beliefs and painful feelings, none of which ever healed. They still need to be healed.
So your task, here, is to consider the unresolved issues and for each one, identify some of the memories connected to it. What actually happened that formed the foundation for this issue?
Make A Commitment to Heal Them
Personal growth, emotional healing, getting over all of this stuff that happens in your early years but stays with you forever, is hard work. It’s not for the faint of heart!
Consider whether or not this is the time to take on such a task and then, plan for putting the support in place to help you do it. If you are planning to be a parent, there is no more noble commitment to make than to decide to heal so that you don’t make the same mistakes your parents did.
But I don’t think you can do it alone. Or quickly. Or easily.
Begin the Healing Process
There are many resources available for growth and healing. Many people choose counseling or therapy or coaching and I highly recommend them for help in identifying the things you haven’t even remembered yet and helping you understand just how profoundly what you are thinking was “not that big a deal” affected you.
But those cellular memories need healing, too, and for that, I recommend energy healing techniques. There are a plethora available so take your time and choose one that you are comfortable with and willing to stick with over the long haul.
For a free healing meditation and energy healing techniques you can use for healing emotional wounds and clearing limiting beliefs, go to [http://www.spiritualaromatherapy.com/how-to-heal-your-issues.html]Healing Your Issues and complete the form.
Interested in natural or holistic parenting? For information and resources for new and expectant moms, or other moms interested in attachment parenting, natural remedies for healing, easy healthy family meals and more, go to [http://www.naturalmomma.com]http://www.naturalmomma.com.
Jeanine Byers Hoag is a certified holistic healing practitioner, a certified spiritual aromatherapist, an ordained LGBT minister, a homeschooling mom, an INFP and an Enneagram 4.
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